"They will never get to see…(enter earthly occasion here)…!
If the person saying this is a Christian, how can they feel this way? (after "initial" bereavement, of course.)
What happened to the concept of the "Communion of Saints" and of the Spirit unifying the souls of the Believers…uniting us in "The Family of God"?
So many of us have had occasions, where we have "felt" the presence of a physically deceased loved one with us. Often during "higher- emotion" kinds of days…Why should we think that our loved one cannot "see" what's going on?
One thing we know about God, is that He doesn't shortchange us when it comes to blessings. Wouldn't the transitioned one want to see us? And God would deny them this…why again??? It makes no sense to me, personally, that God would deny the transitioned ones the ability to see what's going on in our daily lives. To me, that would almost be cruel- the idea that those closest to us can no longer "commune" in Spirit with us still on earth-while accompanying (like piggy-backing?!) God's Spirit.
"On that day you will realize that I am in my Father, and you are in me, and I am in you." (NIV John 14:20)
Even on earth, we sometimes "get vibes" that someone is undergoing an emotional trial of some sort…And perfected in our abilities in Heaven, being "like Him" (1 John 3:2)…we suddenly would lose our ability to zone in on our earth-bound loved ones-how again??? Personally, I highly doubt that!
Psalm 84 (which coincidentally was the year my family transitioned), is a particular favorite of mine. Especially verse 11, which states:
"For the LORD God is our sun and our shield. He gives us grace and glory. The LORD will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right." (NLV -all Scripture references from Biblehub.com)
That is like a Scriptural antidote to any poisoned thinking...
If God doesn't withhold anything (ultimately) good, from those on earth…why then would He forbid this good (of knowing and seeing how we're doing) to those who have entered Paradise? And knowing what's going on with those left behind on earth... that is certainly something our loved ones would consider a "good" thing, I feel!
Some people have told me, that they believe, that knowing of earthly things would dampen the joy of those in Paradise. I believe as others, that full knowledge includes the Scriptural belief that, "All things happen for good" -Romans 8:28)- and I believe our loved ones see already, that all things have worked out perfectly in the future…they, like God, not being subject to time limitation...
"Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely." (NLV 1 Corinthians 13:12 )
It's such a waste of emotional energy I feel, once "armed" with these Scriptural truths, to continue to wail and lament, that our loved ones now transitioned, cannot still "know" (and see) what's going on with us on earth. We bereaved, need all the weapons we can use- to fight our common twin enemies- of disbelief and mistrust.
Do you want to be healed? Jesus asked…
"When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, "Do you want to get well?" (NIV John 5:6)
I ask myself why am I hanging onto beliefs that limit my joy? As my Pastor relayed to me and I share with you,
"Jesus didn't ask us why do we sin…He asked us why do we worry!"
Trusting in God's exuberant LOVE and MERCY, believing that yes, He can "...do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine"... (Ephesisans 3:20 ) gives us an incredible sense of earthly relief, in my humble opinion!