Friday, January 23, 2015


How to help yourself heal during this long journey? Try not to keep picking at the scab that's formed. Early in my grief, I was constantly going over all of the nasty details about the tragedy. AfterI got  all that "dirty stuff" out of my system, it was easier to heal. It's just something that has to be done-cleaning and then repacking the wound with non-hurtful material…

If anyone covers over a wound that's festering…let's face it-it 'aint gonna heal anytime soon. Probably it'll get much worse. But after giving careful attention to cleaning out "all the bad stuff"-  it can heal more quickly if undisturbed.  Quit picking at the scab! unless you want to reopen the wound, and interrupt the healing process already begun! I had to remind myself of this truth, this morning...

During my morning prayer time, my mind wandered, and I started wondering just what Michael (deceased at age 27 months) and Lisa (deceased at 9 and 1/2 months) would look like now, had the wreck never happened. Found myself going back to a "NO!!! STOP-DO NOT GO THERE!!!" remembrance. It's the one where I find out that Lisa

 was so disfigured from the wreck, that she wasn't even viewable in the casket. And so she was placed below the opened casket lid. Uggh…

As SOON as that negative memory started to rip into my mind, I replaced it…with the image of Lisa as a beautiful, beauty-full, vibrantly alive gorgeous young woman. It wasn't very hard to do, as practice makes for efficiency as well as proficiency! (I marked 30 years on the journey last December.)  It's a kind of fruit of grief-work, I guess. And it's never too late to start practicing this! With God's help, we can survive this most devastating of heart-wounds. Focus on anything that is positive, to counter the negativity-it is of vital importance to healing, in my humble opinion!

"He has made everything beautiful in its time…"  

(Ecclesiastes 3:11 New Living Translation  courtesy of Bible.hub) 

"He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away. And he who was seated on the throne said, “Behold, I am making all things new.” Also he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.”   

(Rev. 21:4-5   New Living Translation-courtesy of Bible.hub)
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